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There are a few reasons SOME individuals get lonely. A portion of the reasons are recorded underneath.
☹️Being rejected ☹️Change of a new job or school. ☹️Racism ☹️Move to another country. ☹️Away from family or adored one. ☹️Separation from parents. ☹️Absence of companions or friend. ☹️Victim of bully. ☹️Encountering loss. ☹️They don’t have the friendship ☹️Old age ☹️Being distant from everyone else in a particular season, for example: Christmas, New year, commemoration. ☹️Low self-esteem ☹️Monetary difficulties. 👉And so on…
Loneliness is distinctive for everybody. Being separated from everyone else doesn’t really mean you are alone. You may have loads of social contact, or be in a relationship or part of a family, and still feel lonely–particularly if you don’t feel understood or cared for by individuals around you. Loneliness has both physical and mental ramifications, a considerable lot of which could be the long haul.
In “A Biography of Loneliness: The History of an Emotion” (Oxford), the British historian Fay Bound Alberti defines loneliness as “A conscious, cognitive feeling of estrangement or social separation from meaningful others.
Loneliness can influence anybody regardless of your fame, money, or age. The need for connection is rooted in our DNA. We long for people who take notice of us, understand and empathize with our situation, and offer support when the need arises.
Loneliness can cause depression, and if it lingers for a long time, it can lead to premature death. The need for human connection is a fundamental part of human life. The reason someone feels lonely differs from why another person feels lonely.
Loneliness is a response to the need to belong. There are two interesting comparisons I want to give here. Just like hunger, when an individual is hungry; it is easy to get food and eat. You might not eat your favourite meal, but you eat the food (You are not allergic to) that is available at that moment.
This illustration applies when an individual feels lonely. In contrast to food, you can fulfill your appetite at that point. You cannot satisfy your loneliness easily. Getting away from loneliness requires you to know how to establish and maintain interpersonal relationships, which for some people can be difficult to do. They need time to become acclimated to individuals around them, and if those individuals don’t fit in your circle, you feel alone despite being surrounded by people.
Being in a group provides a sense of solace. When you feel you’re a member of a particular group, community, organisation or tribe, it’s soothing. You might not want to be around others all the time, but being identified and noticed with some people is reassuring. It is healthy to spend time alone, but as earlier mentioned being alone and lonely are two different things.
Being alone can be a choice. Being lonely is when surrounded by people, yet they do not fit in your circle, resulting in loneliness.